HOW TO KNOW IF YOUR SPOUSE IS UNFAITHFUL

I don't know about you, but i find it is a need to know when your husband or wife is having an affair. The marriage decline rate as many of you know is totally on the rise in our society today as marriage infidelity is taking an uphill climb. I believe from lessons learned that we must learn the signs that will more than likely be present when our spouse has been unfaithful and is therefore cheating. This however is a painful thing to become aware of, but it does allow you to plan for what may undoubtedly happen. When a spouse a husband or wife chooses to go outside the marriage and have an affair, they have so completely broken all of the rules of marriage, " till death do us part," and how about the, "forsaking all others." It is your place as husband or wife to become extra cautious and confirm your suspicions one way or the other. Is your spouse cleaner/dressed up more when going to work than he or she use to be? These are all the signs listed below that took place in my own marriage downfall and ultimately our divorce. Is your husband or wife smelling just a little bit better than normal when leaving for work, such as adding cologne/fragrance when their headed out to let's say the construction site...hmmm could your spouse be cheating?

1. Step 1

   Is your husband/wife spic and span when going to work? Are they using their favorite cologne/fragrance when going to let's say a construction site, this being what i call a dirty job you must ask yourself "could your spouse be CHEATING?"

2. Step 2

   Does your husband/wife have a special little travel pack in the trunk of their vehicle like a toothbrush / toothpaste etc...does your husband / wife take that little added special touch before walking out the door when he's really not going anywhere special or so it seems?Do you notice your spouse laying the wedding band around or sometimes forgetting exactly where he or she put it? This is a big sign of a cheating spouse, trust me when i say, " i'm well aware of the signs, for i was married to a cheater. It is a fact that both men and woman alike have AFFAIRS and ultimately often divorce, they cheat on their husband or wife only adding to the already outragiously high marriage infidelity rate in our society today.

3. Step 3

   Is there that unwelcome change in your husband / wife? Have you noticed a change in your partner lately such as he / she is preoccupied, extremely distant from the family. They seem to have a total personality change, perhaps already ate dinner before they got home, comes home late often, always ready to head out the door. It begins to seem like home is simply a stopping over place for your husband / wife, I must ask you again,"could your spouse be cheating?"

4. Step 4

   Has your hubby jokingly said that someone else such as his hairstylist is hitting on him asking him things like, "do you cheat on your wife," then laughingly anwsers his own question "I would never cheat on you!" This actually happened to me years back, needless to say my husband was definitely being unfaithful with his hairstylist.The hairstylist being noneother than one of those vultures i've talked so much about throughout my many articles on marriage, family and divorce. I would advice any woman out there agaisnt sending your husband to a hairstylist, i know this to be a fact since i am a hairstylist. Trust me when i say, the men get up close and personal and many forget that their even married.

5. Step 5

   Have you noticed your husband / wife not wanting to be home as much for special occasions such as your childs birthday party? Do they simply forget your anniversary, all of the special little things that they use to do and say, do you notice a big change in your husband or wife that is so incredibly different than who you married, yes i know people change, but when the change takes the course of a cheating husband or wife, it really becomes quite evident and although i know it's a hard thing to ask yourself, but could he or she be a CHEATER?

6. Step 6

   Are strange people calling your home or worse yet showing up at your door? With divorce rates sky high today we need to know the truth about our spouse especially when children are involved if for no other reason than to plan ahead for what may or may not happen.Marriages do at times survive affairs, but it really takes alot of work on both sides if a marriage is to survive the ultimate betrayal of an affair, it is not impossible, but the one straying outside the marriage really has to get the proper help and work with the other spouse to see if the marriage can be salvaged. I do believe however anytime a husband or wife brings another party in through an affair situation, their heart will more than likely begin to separate from their husband or wife making it extremely difficult to work through any marriage problems they might be having. I would never recommend divorce, in fact i don't even think it should be an option, you don't leave your family! I believe divorce should only come into play if there is abuse either verbal or physical going on in a marriage. I would advise anyone reading this who is having suspisions to ask yourself if any two or more of these steps apply to your own marriage, and if they do there is undoubtably that great possibility that your husband / wife is cheating. Although it is the worse feeling in the world to learn that your husband or wife is having an affair, at least now you know that your spouse is being unfaithful and can ultimately plan what your next step must be.